Relapse Is Not Failure: What to Do Next

Namaste, aap sabhi ka Manas mein swagat hai. Main hoon Dr. Priya Dubey Sharma, aur pichhle 18 saalon se Bhopal mein logo ko unke manasik swasthya ki yatra mein sahayata kar rahi hoon. Aaj hum ek aise vishay par baat karenge jo bahut se log chhod dete hain ya jiske baare mein baat karne se darte hain: relapse. Yeh sirf de-addiction ke sandarbh mein hi nahi, balki kisi bhi naye aadat ko apnane ya buri aadat ko chhodne ki koshish mein bhi ho sakta hai. Aksar log ise apni haar samajh lete hain, lekin sach yeh hai ki relapse safalta ki yatra ka ek hissa ho sakta hai, agar hum isse sahi tarike se samjhein aur aage badhein. Agar aap ya aapka koi apna de-addiction centre Bhopal mein madad dhoondh raha hai, toh yeh article aapke liye bahut madadgar sabit ho sakta hai.

Samajhna: Relapse Ko Ek Naye Drishtikon Se Dekhein

Sabse pehli aur sabse mahatvapurna baat yeh hai ki relapse ko apni nakamyabi ka saboot na maan kar, ise ek shiksha ke roop mein dekhein. Jab koi vyakti kisi addiction se bahar nikalne ki koshish karta hai, toh yeh ek lambi aur utar-chadhav bhari yatra hoti hai. Kai baar, kai kaaranon se, woh wapas usi vyavhaar ki taraf mud sakta hai. Iska matlab yeh bilkul nahi hai ki aapki koshish vyarth thi ya aap kamzor hain. Balki, yeh aapko yeh samajhne ka mauka deta hai ki kaun se triggers (ubharne wale karan) aapko us taraf kheench rahe hain, aur kaun si strategies (ran-neetiyaan) shayad kaam nahi kar rahin. Meri practice mein, maine dekha hai ki jo log relapse ko ek ‘setback’ (pichhadd) ke roop mein nahi balki ‘feedback’ (pratikriya) ke roop mein lete hain, woh zyada jaldi aur mazbooti se wapas patri par laut aate hain. Yeh samajhna zaroori hai ki addiction ek bimari hai, aur usse mukammal taur par chutkara paana ek prakriya hai, ek ek din ki jang hai. Is prakriya mein kai baar choti-moti haar ka saamna karna pad sakta hai.

Relapse Ke Baad Kadam Uthana: Sabse Pehle Kya Karein?

Agar aap ya aapka koi apna relapse ka anubhav karta hai, toh sabse pehle shaanti banaye rakhna bahut zaroori hai. Ghabrahat ya khud ko doshi thehraya se koi fayda nahi hoga. Kuchh turant kadam jo aap utha sakte hain:

1. Apne Aap Ko Doshi Thehrayen Nahi: Sabse pehle, yeh samajhein ki yeh ek galati ho sakti hai, ek nakamyabi nahi. Apne aap par daya dikhayein. 2. Triggers Ki Pehchaan Karein: Yaad karne ki koshish karein ki relapse se pehle kya hua tha. Kya koi khaas paristhiti thi, koi bhavna (jaise tanav, akelapan, khushi), ya koi vyakti? In triggers ko pehchaanna aage ke liye bahut mahatvapurna hai. 3. Apne Support System Se Baat Karein: Agar aap kisi de-addiction programme ka hissa hain, toh turant apne counselor ya support group ko batayein. Agar aap alone hain, toh kisi bharosemand dost ya parivaar ke sadasya se baat karein. Bhopal mein kai aise log hain jo aapki madad kar sakte hain. 4. Apne Goals Ko Yaad Karein: Yaad karein ki aapne yeh yatra kyun shuru ki thi. Aap kya badlav chahte the apne jeevan mein? Yeh aapko motive karne mein madad karega. 5. Turant Action Lein: Agar aapko lagta hai ki aap wapas usi taraf ja rahe hain, toh turant us vyavhaar ko rokne ke liye kadam uthayein. Yeh sirf ek baar ka lapse ho sakta hai, agar aap turant sahi raste par wapas aa jayein.

Maine ek 30-saala IT professional ko dekha tha, jinhone ek saal tak sharab se doori banaye rakhi. Ek bahut bade project ke tanav ke karan unhe relapse ho gaya. Pehle toh woh poori tarah toot gaye the aur unhone socha ki ab sab khatam ho gaya. Lekin unhone Manas mein wapas aakar baat ki, humne milkar unke triggers ki pehchaan ki, aur tanav se nipatne ke naye tarike seekhe. Aaj woh phir se swasth jeevan jee rahe hain.

Relapse Ke Peeche Ke Kaaranon Ko Samajhna

Relapse ke peeche kayi kaaran ho sakte hain. Aksar yeh ek kadam mein nahi hota, balki dhire-dhire hota hai. Kuchh aam kaaran is prakaar hain:

• Triggers Se Gair-Tyaari: Jab aapko pata nahi hota ki kaun si paristhitiyan ya bhavnayein aapko addiction ki taraf kheench sakti hain, toh aap unke liye taiyar nahi hote.
• Tanav (Stress): Jeevan mein aane wale bade tanav – chahe woh career se jude hon, rishton se, ya aarthik samasyao se – addiction ki taraf wapas jaane ka ek bada karan ban sakte hain.
• Akelapan aur Samajik Dabaav: Jab aapke dost ya pariwar ke log samajhte nahi hain ya aap par dabaav dalte hain, toh akelapan mehsoos ho sakta hai, aur vyasan ki taraf wapas jaane ki ichha ho sakti hai.
• Aapne Aap Ko Bahut Zyada Azmana: Kai baar log sochte hain ki woh ab “theek” ho gaye hain aur ek baar “bas dekhne ke liye” try kar sakte hain. Yeh bahut khatarnak ho sakta hai. Addiction ki prakriti aisi hoti hai ki yeh ek baar ke prayog se bhi wapas aa sakti hai.
• Bhavnaatmak Dukh: Jo log kisi dardnak ghatna ya nuksaan se guzar rahe hote hain, woh us dard ko bhulane ke liye vyasan ka sahara le sakte hain.

Humari practice mein, hum in kaaranon ko samajhne mein grahakon ki madad karte hain. Yeh samjhna ki addiction ke peeche sirf ‘marzi’ ka nahi, balki kai ‘biological’, ‘psychological’, aur ‘social’ kaaran ho sakte hain, bahut zaroori hai. Ek de-addiction centre Bhopal mein yahi karta hai – woh samjhta hai ki har vyakti ki yatra alag hoti hai.

Aage Kaise Badhein: Punah Pranali aur Samarthan

Relapse ke baad, sabse mahatvapurna hai ki aapne aapko sambhalein aur ek nayi shuruaat karein. Yeh kuch kadam hain jo aap utha sakte hain:

1. Apne Aap Ko Maaf Karein: Jis tarah maine pehle kaha, khud ko doshi thehraye bina, apne aap ko maaf karna bahut zaroori hai. Aapne koshish ki thi, aur yeh ek adchan thi, nakamyabi nahi. 2. Ek Nayi Yojna Banayein: Apne counselors ya therapy session mein, apne triggers aur unse nipatne ke naye tareeke discuss karein. Zaroori nahi ki jo strategy pehle kaam kar rahi thi, woh ab bhi kare. Shyad aapko kuch naye coping mechanisms (samna karne ke tarike) seekhne hon. Aap hamare assessments ka upyog bhi kar sakte hain yeh samajhne ke liye ki aapke liye sabse achha kya kaam karega. 3. Apne Support System Ko Majboot Karein: Agar aapke pariwar wale samajhte hain, toh unse aur zyada samarthan maangein. Agar nahi, toh aise dost ya groups dhundhein jo aapko samajhte hon. Bhopal mein kayi support groups hain jo madad kar sakte hain. 4. Swasth Jeevan Shaili Par Dhyaan Dein: Niyamit vyayam, poora aahar, aur paryapt neend addiction se ladne mein madad karte hain. Yeh aapke sharir aur man ko majboot banate hain. 5. Dhairya Rakhein: Bahut se log ek hi baar mein safal nahi ho paate. Kuch log kai baar prayas karte hain. Jo log haar nahi maante, woh aakhirkar safal hote hain. Yeh ek Marathon hai, Sprint nahi.

Maine ek 35-saala mahila ko dekha tha jo kayi saalon se nasha kar rahi thi. Ek baar jab woh de-addiction centre Bhopal se nikli, toh kuch mahino baad unhe phir se relapse ho gaya. Woh bahut nirash thi. Lekin unke parivaar ne unka saath nahi chhoda, aur woh Manas wapas aayin. Unhone milkar puraane triggers ko dekha, aur kuch naye rishton ki wajah se unhe dobara vyasan ki taraf jaane ka mann kar raha tha. Humne unhe naye log banane aur rishte nibhane ke tareeke sikhaye. Aaj, woh apne bachho ke saath ek swasth jeevan jee rahi hain.

Relapse Se Seekhna Ek Kalpanik Yatra Hai

Relapse se yeh seekhna ki “ab sab khatam ho gaya” galat soch hai. Iske bajaye, yeh sochyein ki aapne is anubhav se kya seekha hai. Kya aapne yeh seekha ki aap tanav ko kaise handle karte hain? Kya aapne yeh seekha ki aapko kis tarah ke logon se door rehna chahiye? Kya aapne yeh seekha ki aapko apne bhavnaon ko kaise vyakt karna chahiye? Yeh sabhi chizein aapki agli koshish ko aur mazboot banayengi. Yahan tak ki jo log bade bade addiction se nikle hain, woh bhi aksar yeh batate hain ki unhone apne relapse se bahut kuch seekha hai, jisne unhein aage chal kar sabse zyada madad di. Hamesha yaad rakhein ki aap akele nahi hain. Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapko madad ki zaroorat hai, toh [book a session](https://manas365.com/book-session) ke liye humein sampark karein. Yaad rakhiye, har baar jab aap uthkar khade hote hain, toh aap aur mazboot bante hain.

Relapse ko ek nakamyabi samajhne ki bajaye, use ek naye drishtikon se dekhein. Yeh aapki yatra ka ek hissa ho sakta hai, jo aapko zyada samajhdar, zyada majboot aur aakhirkar zyada safal banayega. Hum Manas mein aapki madad ke liye hamesha uplabdh hain.

Disclaimer: Yeh article sirf educational purpose ke liye hai.